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It's the Thought That Counts

Did you ever wonder why some people always seem to get exactly what they want?
Ever wonder why other people seem to have a dark cloud following them? Well, there's a reason why that is, and it has to do with thoughts.

There's a theory that whatever a person thinks about most is attracted to them. This theory is called many things, but it's labeled the Law of Attraction by those who strongly believe in it.

This law explains why, for example, 95% of the money in the world is earned by only 1% of the population. It's because this 1% is most fervently thinking about wealth.

The law also explains why, when you're running late for school, and all you're thinking about is being late, that you catch all the red lights, get stuck behind someone's grandmother, and end up in a traffic jam. As a result of your thoughts, you are, in fact, late for school.

Athletes who achieve amazing feats -- at all levels -- often cite being 'in the zone.' During these moments of peak performance, they were having intense thoughts about playing lights-out and winning. So they did.

But, you don't have to be a zillionaire or professional athlete to use the Law of Attraction. In fact, you're already using it, everyday, whether you realize it or not. And so is everybody else.

The difference is this: the zillionaires and professional athletes have learned HOW to use their thoughts. If you understand that you're attracting whatever is in your mind, then why not train yourself to think mostly about things you want to experience? All you have to do is define what you want, and ask for it. Sounds
simple, but there's more to it.

Like attracts like in most cases, and this works with your thoughts as well. So, if you begin thinking something negative, you must catch yourself and replace those negative thoughts with positive thoughts. And herein lies a catch: most people think about what they don’t want more than they think of what they do

If you're thinking you're going to be late, you're going to be late. If you're thinking you're going to fail that test, guess what: you probably will. So, instead of thinking, "I don't want to be late," think, "I will make it on time." Instead of thinking, "I'm going to fail that test," think, "I can pass that test."

If you really feel it as you think it, your emotions help create the results you're thinking of. This works both negatively and positively. Back to being late: if you're angry about running late, swear at the grandmother, pissed off at the traffic, and fearful of the consequences of being late, then you're putting a whole lot of
emotion into those 'being late' thoughts. But, instead, if you remain calm about your late start, and think about being on time, imagining arriving on time, and seeing yourself there, your emotions will fuel the thoughts that make it happen; you'll arrive on time.

Working with Your Thoughts

You can learn to control your thoughts to change your life in any area. But, that sounds like a lot of work – monitoring all those thoughts. Well, not necessarily. Research indicates that a positive thought is hundreds of times more powerful than a negative thought. Not sure how this data was gathered, but let's go with
it. If that's true, then you only need to monitor and correct the negative thoughts.

But the key is to focus your thoughts on the things you want to experience. One way to do this is to decide what it is you really want. Start with just one thing, but know that goal setting is huge here.

Then, with this one thought in mind, go to a quiet place, let your body relax, and pay attention to what thoughts pop up. Most people will initially feel silly, antsy, or easily distracted. Try focusing on your breathing, and nothing else. If you notice a negative thought, replace it with it's positive opposite. By doing
this for just a few minutes on a regular basis, say once a day, you'll surely notice good results over time.

One of the first things you'll start to notice every day is how you're feeling. This is important because, since emotions fuel thought, your feelings let you know what you're thinking. Knowing that whatever you choose to think about will become your life experience, choose positive thoughts!

Try this experiment: if you want to know what you (or anyone else) have been thinking about, look at the life surrounding the thinker. Is it happy, or sad? Struggling or successful? Angry, or calm? Stressed, or relaxed? Sick or healthy? You are what you think.

So, what if you do this and realize you're sad, struggling, angry, stressed, sick? Well, take a good look at the thoughts behind this situation. Ask how you feel. It is impossible to feel bad and have lots of good thoughts. Likewise, it is impossible to feel good and have lots of bad thoughts. So, feel good!

Pay attention to the times when you feel really good. You're feeling excitement, joy, gratitude, love -- all powerful emotions. Seize the moments when you feel these -- remember how it feels. And repeat as often as possible.

On the flip side, pay attention to the times when you're feeling bad. Notice what thoughts got you here, and how you feel about it. Then, move those bad feelings out, replacing them with happy, positive thoughts. Then notice how you feel!

Try this exercise:  next time you find yourself feeling bad, get to yourself. Close your eyes, calm yourself, ignore outside influences, then smile for one minute. This will diffuse any of your negative feelings, and send positive thoughts rushing in.

Now, you can make every day a good day by just paying attention to your thoughts and choosing only positive ones. Charge those positive thoughts by feeling good. Have a little fun with it!

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