refers to any activity expected of someone joining a group
(or to maintain full status in a group) that humiliates, degrades
or risks emotional and/or physical harm, regardless of the
person's willingness to participate. In years past,
hazing practices were typically considered harmless pranks
or comical antics associated with young men in college fraternities.
we know that hazing extends far beyond college fraternities
and is experienced by boys/men and girls/women in school groups,
university organizations, athletic teams, the military, and
other social and professional organizations.
For information on stopping hazing, go to http://www.stophazing.org
Should You Worry About School Violence?
School violence is in the headlines again with the shootings at
Northern Illinois University. After hearing news of school shootings or
other violence, it's natural for students — no matter how old they are
or where they go to school — to worry about whether this type of
incident may someday happen to them.
rare that school violence takes place on the scale of what happened at
Virginia Tech or Columbine High School. But when a tragedy like this
happens, it's normal to feel sad and anxious, and to want to make sense
of the situation.
How Safe Are Schools?
It's actually safer to be in school than in a car. Twice as many 15- to
19-year-olds die in car accidents than in shootings (and that's all shootings, not just the ones that happen in schools).
According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) less than 1% of all homicides
among school-age children happen on school grounds or on the way to and
from school. So the vast majority of students will never experience
violence at school.
Still, some schools have re-evaluated their safety needs in response to
the concerns of families and communities. Some now require that guests
check in at the office or have more guards on duty.
Some schools have installed metal detectors.
Another thing that helps make schools safer is greater awareness of
problems like bullying and discrimination. Many schools have
implemented programs to fight these problems and to help teachers and
administrators know more about protecting students from this type of
Why Does It Happen?
School violence isn't easy to understand. There is no single reason why
students become violent. Some are just following behavior they've seen
at home, on the streets, or in video games, movies, or television.
Sometimes, people who turn violent are victims of teasing who've hit a
limit and feel like they would do anything to make it stop. They may
feel isolated and rejected by their peers.
These are only a couple of the reasons why a person may become violent.
There's one thing experts do agree on, though: Having access to guns or
other weapons makes it easier for some people to lash out against the
things or people they don't like.
What Can I Do?
Someone on the verge of violence may display warning signs. These can include:
If you've witnessed or experienced violence of any kind, not
talking about it can make feelings build up inside and cause problems.
There's even a condition, posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD), that
can develop in someone who has lived through a traumatic event, such as
a serious car accident, physical or sexual abuse, or a shooting.
You don't have to be hurt to experience PTSD — for some people,
simply watching a traumatic event or being threatened with great
physical harm is enough to trigger it. That's why it's important to get
help. School counselors can be a good place to start — they're familiar
with the issues in your school and can help you put things in
Reviewed by: Steven Dowshen, MD
Date reviewed: February 2008
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