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Friday, March 25, 2011
Some of us are innocent. Some of us are witnesses. Others of us are guilty.
Whether we like it or not, bullying has been a universal issue. Whether we know it or not, each one of us has had a personal experience with bullying.
When I was around eight years old, my family moved to Switzerland and I went to a local French school. I had no idea how to speak French so, as you can imagine, it was one of the most traumatic experiences of my life. After a few weeks of getting to know my class, trying to communicate with them on some level, I started to feel a little more confident and comfortable with my new surroundings.
I don’t know how or when it started but I suddenly felt a lot of aggression and anger from two, older boys. It started off with just looks and snide comments that I didn’t really understand. But then it got worse. Eventually it got to a point where everywhere I turned, they were there pushing me to the floor, yelling at me to go home, go back to where I belong. It hurt a lot more psychologically then it did physically. Eventually I started to believe what they were saying. I started to feel like I was an outcast, that I didn’t belong there.
I finally had the courage to tell my mom everything. My mom dealt with it just like any parent would, she told my teacher. Now my teacher had the most unorthodox way of working out a solution. She sat my entire class down and simply told them what happened to me. She didn’t expect anything from them, just made them aware.
Then the most memorable thing happened. When we were released for recess and the boys started to harass me, my entire class stood in front of me and forced them to back off. They stood up against them, yelling at them to leave me alone and they did! After that they never ever looked at me again.
I was a victim. I didn’t understand what I did to deserve it and still cant to this day. But no matter what, it’s important to speak up and speak out. Bullying will continue to exist if people don’t do anything about it. It helped me and it can definitely help you. Whether you are a victim or a witness, the best thing is to make others aware because they will give you the best kind of support.
Laura
Category: Violence
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